Have you ever admired the physiques of the super fit person at the gym and wondered what their secret is? Or what about the successful business man/woman who started from nothing and now runs an empire. How did they get there? Or even the couple who seems perfect. Respectful and loving with each other, always laughing. How do they keep their relationship so strong? All of these examples have one thing in common: Consistency. Efforts need to be made on a daily basis in order to get the desired results. Not once in a while or only when its convenient, EVERYDAY. We are a society of instant gratification and expect results with minimal efforts. Well I hate to break the news to you but it just doesn’t work that way. Change takes time. For whatever reason, I see that people do not have the ability to commit to a plan long term. Perhaps its not the ability they lack but the drive to do so. Making excuses as to why they cannot stay on track for what they say they wanted. Giving up before they even give themselves an opportunity. If you truly want to make a change, it is going to take work, commitment and patience. It doesn’t happen overnight, but it does happen when you are committed to the process and consistent with your efforts.
Are you the chronic 3 -day dieter? Committing to a plan with high expectations and motivated but after 3 days you don’t see the results, you give up? Shocked that after 72 full hours of no junk food you still don’t fit into skinny jeans? Unfortunately, eating a salad once in a while does not off set the doughnuts and burgers that are consumed the majority of the time. It takes time and consistent efforts. Are you wishing you were a few pounds lighter or had sculpted arms ready for tank top season? If that is the case, how much time are you dedicating towards structured exercise? From a fitness perspective, you cannot workout once a week for an hour and expect the six pack pack you admire of the regular gym goers. Be real with yourself. Change takes time and it takes effort. If you are not willing to put in the time, learn to accept the lack of results you are getting. Eating clean consistently is what will have an impact on your body composition. Exercising 4-5 times a week will start to leave you feeling stronger and change how your clothes fit. There is no magic pill, no super food that you can consume to fast track the results. Effort needs to be made daily to nourish your body with wholesome foods and move regularly to keep your body strong and agile. The aches and pains you experience are not because you are taking care of yourself. Take a closer look at your nutrient intake and your exercise output before you settle into the notion that “its just me”. Put in the effort, be committed to the process and experience how good you can feel with consistency.
In business, you say you hate your job but what are you doing about it? Are you actively looking for something better? Are you making efforts to improve the environment? Or just sitting back doing what is told and complaining about it when you get home? That is a lot of energy wasted that could be better spent either exploring or creating opportunities for your dream job. We live in an era where anything is possible. There is opportunities everywhere for those willing to put in the work. If you don’t have the know how, take a course. If you lack confidence in you ability, learn more and apply yourself daily. Its amazing how your self worth will grow when consistent efforts are made. Regardless of the size of the task, as long as it is in a forward motion, you are moving in the right direction. Celebrating the small victories along the way will diminish self doubt. Staying still and making no efforts suffocates a fire within that craves to burn. The impact may be small at first but over time the consistent efforts create a big reward. You have no time to create a business plan? Well let me ask how much time do you spend watching TV or mindlessly googling random things? The fact is everyone has 24 hours in a day, its how you are using them that has an impact on you life or not. So, do you really want it? If you do you can 100% make it happen with consistent effort. Don’t give up on yourself. Put in the time and build something to be proud of. Instead of coming home at the end of the day and complaining about your boss, imagine how it will feel to come home and share the next accomplishment created solely by you.
In relationships, happiness does not just happen. Its work to share a life with someone. It takes compromise, learning to communicate effectively, respecting boundaries and actually making the time for each other when life becomes busy. Divorces are almost the norm these days so I have to question, do people really put in the effort to make things work or do they just give up? If you are unhappy, why? Do you and your partner not talk anymore? Intimacy out the door? Instead of placing blame, ask yourself what are you doing to reignite the fire as a couple? What can you share together that brings a smile and connection back. It can be something as simple as taking a walk together, leaving the phones at home and actually talking. A date night or weekend getaway without the kids to just enjoy each others company in a change of environment. Or maybe it needs something a little more structured with the aide of a professional to help sort thru some challenges. We take courses to learn to drive, to teach us skills for our profession and even for parenting, but no one teaches us how to navigate through a relationship. There is no shame in doing whatever it takes to make your relationship work. It takes consistent effort to make things flow in a way the suits both partners. Love and relationships are equally scary as they are rewarding. Are you putting forth efforts to ensure that you are both fulfilled? Or is it too much work so why not call the lawyers and be done with it in hopes that your next partner will be less effort. Quite likely it wont be. The same issues will arise if you don’t take the time and put forth consistent efforts to work together as a couple. When that occurs, its when the greatest connections are created. Overcoming challenges together will build a stronger bond. Love, laughter and the deepest feelings of togetherness that is unbreakable is what we all crave. It takes consistent effort.
I remember a quote I once heard. I cant remember the source, but it will always stick in my mind. It was something like ” It is the things that you do daily that have the biggest impact on your life.” This makes sense to me in so may ways. In health, move regularly and eat clean the majority of the time to get results. With this approach, the ice-cream you have that one time will not have an impact as it is an infrequent occurrence. With business, small efforts daily working towards your goal will eventually pay off. But reading that one book that one time on entrepreneurship will not create your dream job. In relationships, love and consideration for each other daily will have a greater impact on the connection than just being nice to each other once a year to insincerely celebrate an anniversary. All of it take consistent effort. Great things come to those who work for it. You have more power than you may think to create the life you desire. Make a decision, be committed to the process and consistent with your efforts. Life is not a part time gig. You may have to put in some overtime, change up your current routine but its totally worth it. Consistency is the key.